I’ve only recently realized that a quite few people reading the blog were interested in reading my side of the story about waiting till marriage thing. I’ll try to say it the best I can but remember I’m not a writer.
It was a shock to me and as most of you probably figured I was totally opposed to it. I mean no sex till marriage, really?????
My first thought was that I had done nothing to deserve this. I’m not saying I’m the best ever at it but I should be in the legends team (HAHA). All jokes aside, this was something that we loved doing. It was a way to connect with each other on a whole other level. It’s like becoming one with the one you love. Anyways, no need to elaborate more since most of us know the subject very well.
In the modern relationship sex holds and important part and all of the sudden she doesn’t want to anymore? I felt rejected, I felt abandoned and even wondered if she didn’t love me anymore. I said no for a while then said I would try but I didn’t really want to so I became bitter. This bitter feeling lasted a month or more. I felt this sadness in me every time I spoke to her or saw her. She was doing it for the right reasons but surely there must’ve been something else that God could ask her to let go like doing her hair every weekend or French fries.
But then I decided that sex didn’t define my relationship. I decided that the woman that I love (Ann-Sophie) was worth waiting for even if I didn’t approve (at first). She has been with me through some very hard time providing unconditional support and it was only right that I do the same. Because that’s what love is about, making sacrifices for each other, supporting each other and overcoming obstacles together.
Today I’m totally okay with it. And believe it or not our relationship is healthier now than it was before. You realize that when you can’t have sex to solve every problems in the relationship that’s when you really work on it. So now when people ask me if it’s hard to wait for sex I answer “I’m waiting for Ann-Sophie”.
I know it’s a tough journey but I have great company.
P.S. this may or may not be my last article on the blog 😛
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