Today I went on a tour to james bond island and its entourage. As you know, I am traveling alone so I went alone. I was feeling tired and I felt like the day would be long. Funny how the most random day can turn out to be amazing. As a travel blogger and God lover, it is difficult for me to stick to traveling. Sometimes my posts get a little out of the travel subject and it is fine by me. But today, I am so happy to be able to perfectly mix the two topics!
I met this wonderful couple today: Denise and Ricky. When I first saw them, I immediately knew that they were a couple but I didn’t know they were married, until I saw Denises’s ring. I was so happy to see it because I really believe in young married couples. she seemed so young! So did Ricky. But I couldn’t see if Ricky also had a ring because his left hand was in his pocket. I stayed there stalking until I finally saw his ring 🙂 Yes! They were married. I got so intrigued by them. I wanted to ask many question but I had to start somewhere lol and not sound like a stalker (which I was). We took a boat to the restaurant where we would have lunch and during diner, Ricky asked me something (I think He asked if I wanted more chicken) but yea the point is that a conversation started! Woohoo.
I didn’t know that the best conversation of my day was about to start. I learned that they were married for 5 days! And they were on a 1 month honeymoon in Asia. We started talking about marriage. See, as some of you know, many things have changed in my life since november 2013. I am in an amazing, surnatural relationship with God and this path has led me to stop doing certain things. one of these things happens to be sex before marriage. (wow, never thought i would be the girl waiting for marriage one day..NEVER) But God has showed me things that I had never seen nor understood before. It hasn’t been easy but it is totally worth it! Believe me. I have no regrets about my decision. (ladies, if he really loves you he will do it. don’t believe people saying it is impossible! But that is another chapter).
I’ve been wanting to spend 2 days in Jacmel (Haiti) with my boyfriend when I’ll go back to Haiti. 2 days, meaning spending the night. I knew that we wouldn’t do IT but still something on the inside of me didn’t feel right about it. I am the one who proposed it but I was also the one backing off lol. When the holy spirit is talking to you, there is no escape. I decided to think about it (off we are so stubborn when it comes to obeying quickly) and this couple just happened to give me my answer. I asked them why they were happy to get married. Ricky clearly said with a laugh: “We finally get to sleep on the same bed”. I said: “ha 🙂 you guys are christians or?”. They said yes. I asked if it was the first time they traveled together. They said no! They’ve been to many countries together BUT they always made sure someone came along ( an aunt, their families, friends). They said that their families always showed the value of marriage so they grew up respecting this treasure.
To summarize our conversation: It is sad to see young people not believing in marriage anymore. We do everything married couples do so most of us don’t see the point of getting a ring in front of God anymore. People do it all and end up having kids and partners outside of marriage. They said that on their wedding day some people didn’t show up because they didn’t really see it as a big deal, which is super sad. They are 24 and 26 and got engaged last year. They even think they took a little time to pop out the question. I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately..about boundaries, about glorifying God with our relationships. I used to use ‘my body is the temple of the Holy Spirit” as a joke, but now I realize how serious this scripture is! If only you knew..If only you knew about the power residing in this body. Ouh. All of this makes me wonder why young people are so afraid of commitment nowadays.. We are using the excuse that we are too young for a relationship and that we are “enjoying life”. I don’t see marriage as an obstacle to enjoy life. It is simply adding your best friend to the picture. I am not saying that you should get into random relationships when you are not ready. No! Take your time. But I have a problem when it comes to bashing relationships and marriages because you ‘Don’t believe in it”. Please. Everybody wants love. Stop letting your past make you bitter and pretend like you don’t need it. Deep down everybody wants to be loved. Never stop believing in love.
so, to all my readers, this message is for you. If you really love somebody, if you really feel this connection that makes you want to travel together, build things together, don’t stay in an infinite relationship, infinite ‘it’s complicated’, infinite ‘we are not ready’. There is a time to analyze it and a time to jump. True love commits, true love takes the risk and most importantly…true love waits. Yes, it is not old-fashioned or crazy to wait till marriage. I used to laugh at it, but God showed me better and believe me, my relationship has never been stronger. (If you want me to write about how I announced it to my boyfriend, comment below). So I’ve got my answer. We will not spend the night over there. We will spend the day. Why tease each other on a bed? It’s black or white. We are in or we are out with God. Yes we fail Him daily, yes we miss, but His mercies are new everyday. Our God is a great God. My boyfriend and I sometimes put ourselves in unnecessary positions where God has to really stop us, and we are working on it all the time. The important thing is to be serious about doing things God’s way. It is not always easy but the spirit ALWAYS tells you when you are going in a wrong direction..always. You either chose to listen or ignore it and feel bad after.
Following Christ does not make you boring. You don’t stay home praying (like some people think). You can travel together, go party together etc… as long as your spirit is at peace with it and in line with God, go for it! Have fun with your boo. But let me tell you today that there is NO BETTER WAY than God’s way.
Take it from a girl who loves sex and never thought she would wait till marriage. I am always bold and open about my past, not trying to be better than anyone.
ps: You can still be the sexiest, wildest girl. Just be that girl for you hubby 😉 not boyfriend, not randoms. Guard yourself. Adjust your crown.
You can see Denise’s and Ricky’s video here:
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